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Little Big Man (1970)
IMDB rating: 7.70
Plot: Jack Crabb is about 100 years old as the film begins. A collector of oral histories asks him about his past. He recounts being captured and raised by indians, becoming a gunslinger, marrying an indian, watching her killed by General George Armstrong Custer, and becoming a scout for him at Little Big Horn.
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Directors: Penn Arthur
Actors: Hoffman Dustin,George Chief Dan,Balsam Martin,Mulligan Richard,Corey Jeff,Little Star Robert,Bellini Cal,Moreno Ruben,Shemayne Steve,Hickey William,Anderson James,Comedy,Drama,Western,Adventure,War,
In College and Depressed?
I am currently a 19 year old freshman in college. I HATE the school I am at and am transferring next year but I truly find it difficult to even get out of bed in the morning. I don’t know why this is happening? I had lead a relatively privileged life. My parents pay for everything, I am only obligated to get good grades which I do. College is easy compared to the pampered private high school I went to, I’ve had the best GPA now han in years past. I’ve spoken to the counseling here and they simply call it separation anxiety from my parents. I currently am 9 hours from home and at first that was a big deal but in time I have gotten over that, I don’t love it but that I did adapt to. I am grateful for the opportunity I have been given and do want a degree, IDK what in though.
I go to a big state school and have made some friends. It doesn’t help that my roommate is an epic tool either. My mother is understand where as my father persists on telling me to "man up" and be a "college man." Maybe it’s just me but I hate the whole college tradition, camaraderie school spirit bullshit. I seemingly have everything but I’m so depressed that I have little drive to do anything I go to parties but I personally abstain from alcohol and drugs, which my friends say is what refuses to allow me to have fun. I’m repulsed by the thought that I would need drugs to have a good time.
I was always pretty happy-go-lucky until I arrived on this campus. Am I the only one? How and will I get over this. I don’t want to be this way when I transfer.
Man up.
Kevin Fuck | Feb 08, 2010
Sometimes the atmosphere of the school will get you down. When you transfer hopefully it will get better. I don’t believe you’re the only one. Like me, I want to go to The University of TN. I live in TN obviously. I don’t want to go to an unknown school. That’s just me. I am currently in 8th grade. I hope this helps and remember you’re not the only one out there. Hope things get better. Also don’t forget to research what you can do with different degrees. Find one that’s interesting to you. Hopefully I helped.
Timmy500 | Feb 08, 2010
It’s quite understandable that you’d have some separation anxiety or feel somewhat homesick being that you’re so far away from home. You’re very smart to Not be listening to your ‘friends’ who say that a person must engage in that reckless behavior in order to have fun
That’s just hogwash between us and the wall. If you’re that depressed and unhappy, and your grades are starting to suffer, how about finding out the process for withdrawing until you can enroll at the other college.
The ‘college life’ may not be for you, and perhaps you may commute to the local state college while living at home. Perhaps you can also consider talking with a licensed therapist on a regular basis or, at least, for a few sessions to help you figure out why you’re feeling so depressed.
For searching about various careers: http://www.bls.gov/oco and can search ‘accountants’, ‘teachers’, ‘computer software engineers and computer programmers’ or whatever other career that piques one’s interest.
US colleges: http://www.utexas.edu/world/univ
jannsody | Feb 08, 2010
Traditionally, aside from pursuing one’s education college has always been the way for a young person to transition to to adulthood. Going into the college world and lifestyle is not all it’s cracked up to be. But still, it’s a little similar to what could be later in life. For example – being shacked up with roomate(s) who you don’t necessarily care for, raucous parties, people acting stupid…The main way to get over those things and not be depressed is to find something positive you like to balance out what you don;t like. Joining different clubs, activities etc…even getting a part time job to meet interesting people…I went through the same thing my freshman year and after I viewed the experience in a new light the 3 years after that became some of the best I ever had!
Good Luck!
Kai | Feb 08, 2010
When you transfer, transfer to a school that suits your personality. There are a ton of schools out there that don’t have that huge "rah rah school spirit" thing going on. The students there still enjoy school, and have fun, and there’s tons to do, but the entirety of the social life doesn’t revolve around "rah rah school spirit". One example – Hampshire College.
There’s also no reason why you need to drink and etc. in order to have a good time at college. Even at your current school, there’s likely a sizable proportion of students who don’t drink; and there are also schools you could transfer to where a big part of being on campus is actually purposefully focused on *not* drinking. When you transfer, make sure that your school fits you in this way as well – where the entirety of the social life does not focus on drinking and etc.
I don’t think that you need to be this way when you transfer. I just think that your current school is a poor fit for you, and it’s bringing you down. If you can find schools to apply to that you like, and which suit you in all ways, including socially, you may be more yourself again.
And do pay attention to things like distance from home. I know you’re used to it now, but 9 hours from home is considerable. If you want to be somewhat closer, that’s an entirely reasonable thing to consider re: picking schools.
Some schools I wonder if you might not like… Brown, Claremont McKenna, Bowdoin, Stonehill College, Stanford, Whitman College, Duke, Rice, Washington U in St. Louis, Middlebury, St. Michael’s College, St. Olaf, Davidson, Furman U, Pomona College.
RoaringMice | Feb 08, 2010
I am in the exact same position as you- I hate my college and I cannot wait to transfer out. The only advice I can give you is the same advice I give myself! Don’t ruin your chances of getting into another college due to poor grades because you don’t like classes/school spirit and don’t even want to get up in the morning for your classes. Just try to make it through the rest of the year by going to club meetings and think that in just a few months you will be out. It’s only a few months until you can go somewhere else.
I, too, went to a small private high school and feel that I just don’t "fit in". You are absolutely not the only one.
Becca G | Feb 08, 2010
First of all, it’s good your transferring. At least if your trouble is in your surroundings. I didn’t transfer out of university when I should have, and now I’m wondering how much happier I might have been elsewhere.
If your situation is going to change though, you need to figure out why you’re so unhappy. The truth is, nobody reading your post really knows when you’ll feel better, because we don’t know what’s wrong with you. If this is "separation anxiety" you need to either get over it (therapy, meds, whatever) or move closer to your parents.
But then again maybe it’s not that. Do you like your classes? If not, finding some that you do might help you out. You’re not struggling, but easy isn’t the same as enjoyable. You have friends, but do you like them? It sounds silly, but maybe you’re only around them because they’re willing to be friends, not because you share common interests.
Or maybe college isn’t for you. The truth is, it wasn’t for me; I stuck it out because I saw it as the way to move up in the world, not because I really liked it. Maybe you’d rather get EMT training or join the police or army or something.
But if it’s not you parents, not your friends, not your classes, and not the college scene in general, you could just be depressed. Frankly, I doubt that. This started with college after all. But hey, no way for us to really tell from the other side of the internet. Either way, going for runs helps to work things out, whether your problems are chemical or external.
Good luck.
Zach | Feb 08, 2010
You are doing a number of things right. You are getting out of bed in the morning even if you don’t feel like it. You are getting good grades. You are abstaining from alcohol and drugs.
It sounds to me as if a big state school with drinking, drugs, partying, sports, etc. is not right for you. You have a choice of either searching for and finding a niche of serious students at your school (there probably are some) or transferring to a school that better fits your personality. See the attached link for some small liberal arts schools that might be worth considering. Some on that list may have the same type of partying, so check them out well before transferring.
In the meantime, until you transfer, seek out other students with similar values. You might find them doing volunteer service, or at a place of worship. You might find them in an honors program or in an intellectual type of club. Check your universities web sites for organizations that sound appealing and give them a try. I would particularly recommend doing volunteer service work because it can be hard to feel sorry for your self while feeling compassion for someone less fortunate.
Keep in touch with your family and also keep in touch with your friends from home. That will help some with the homesickness.
Emily M | Feb 08, 2010
One option is to go back to the counseling center and insist on seeing someone who won’t dismiss your problem. Perhaps they can refer you to a private psychologist or psychiatrist who can do an evaluation or consultation. Being able to talk things over with a neutral party may be helpful. It sounds like you are a very mature young man with a good perspective on things. But everyone gets overwhelmed once in a while. Perhaps this school just isn’t a good fit for you – hopefully, transferring will be a positive step.
It may sound silly, but being physically active can do a lot to get a person going when they’re down – endorphins and all that. Maybe getting out and walking, or biking, or working out at the gym would help. Just don’t let yourself get into a continuing downward spiral [easier said than done, sometimes].
Good luck to you – I hope you are able to pull out of this soon.
MomSezNo | Feb 08, 2010
